No response...

I didn't get a response from the first email I sent. I thought I would take it more personally because sometimes I am a little overly critical, but it doesn't really bother me. That guy isn't the one for me. I finally landed on a guy that seems pretty compatible with me. He is the first one I have seen that says he likes country music. I think I did a little better with my email this time. I took some advice from a friend who is marrying a girl he met on a dating site, so I consider him my expert.

No luck yet, but its only 15 days in so its not the end of the world. I am not giving up yet.

First contact

So I sent my first email today. The guys who have emailed me aren't exactly my type, so I decided to take the "bull by the horns." The stress that came with sending that first email was almost unbearable. What should I say, how should I say it. It was overwhelming. So I utilized a friend who met his fiancee on an online dating site to get his advice. He gave me some good suggestions. So, I sent the email and wait. If he's interested he will respond. If he isn't then it isn't meant to be. I will update the result when I have one.

Day 2

So, I now have some rules of thumb...

1. Don't post how awesome you think you are...because when you do it appears that you are not awesome, but in fact a huge douche.

2. Pictures...if you don't have one I probably won't look at your profile. Not posting pictures means one of two things, you might be seriously unfortunate looking and I am sorry for that. Or you are to lazy to take an additional 5 minutes to upload a couple pictures. If this is the case then my guess is you will continue to be lazy in a relationship and that is not appealing.

3. Pictures x2...Posting pictures with girls and no caption makes you seem like a player, if its your sister, say its your sister, if not leave her off your profile as you attempt to find a legitimate relationship.

4. Pictures x3...if everyone of your pictures has some kind of alcohol in them, it screams I am not out of my partying stage and therefore unlikely to settle down.

5. Pictures x4...don't post a picture of yourself flicking off the camera...if you haven't stopped flicking off the camera after age 19, you have bigger issues than finding a girlfriend.

These are my observations thus far...I am also on to you, Mr. "I post pictures from 5 years ago when I was in better shape and took care of myself."

Day 1

After a recent break up from a relationship that I was committed to, but was not going to work I have decided to enter into the world of online dating.

I was first presented with the ominous process of creating a profile. The obvious questions crossed my mind, should I put my body type as curvy? or average? What tag line will get me attention without coming across as a complete whore? What pictures are good enough to attempt to get men to pay attention to me? I think after each page I filled out, I said to myself, "Stop! What are you doing? This is a bad idea." But then I would remind myself that it is 2012 and the days of meeting a decent guy at a bar are no longer reasonable and meeting someone at work is out of the question. So I persevered. Completing the profile as honest as I could be to a complete stranger and even more importantly, as honest as I could be with myself.

I have received three profile views. Since I still believe it is the man's responsibility to make initial contact, I am going to sit back and wait for a bit.

So far I have learned a couple of things.

1. I have a lot of things in common with the guys that I have seen so far. Hopefully that helps my chances.

2. I feel like people are filling out job applications, thinking "I am going to put the ideal on here, but I will consider other opportunities."

3. This is stressful.

Keep reading to see the adventures of a slightly skeptical, nervous, online dater.